Problem-solving / Connection / Safety
Skill of Empathy
“Your face is going like this. You seem ______. Something happened? You wanted ______. It’s hard. Breathe with me. You can handle it.”
Skill of Consequences: imposed
“You have a choice. You can choose to ______ and _______, or you can choose to ______ and ______. I can see by your actions that you have chosen to ________.”
Skill of Positive Intent
“You wanted ____, so you _______. You didn’t know what else to do. You may not ______, ______ hurts. When you _______, say _________.”
Skill of Encouragement
“You ______, so _______. That was helpful. Good for you! Way to go! You did it!”
Skill of Assertiveness: Adult
Say the childs name and the action you would like them to do. Describe the action with desired behavior in great detail.
Skill of Assertiveness: Child
“Did you like it? Tell your friend, ‘I don’t like it when you______, Please_______?”
Skill of Choice
“It’s time to ______. You may ______ or _______. Which is best for you?”
Skill of Composure
“You’re safe. Breathe with me. You can handle this. Smile. Take a deep breath, and relax.”
Safe Keeper Job
“My job is to keep you safe. Your job is to help keep it safe.”
